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Family relationship update - .....|::|::::|... - 9th May 2025
(background)
My father's previous wife had forced my mother to owe 3M yen of debt and to care for her daughter 25 years ago when my mother had been either pregnant or I had been within 3 months old; my father had never helped my mother then.
My father's family, as well as those woman and daughter, had gave my mother nasty treatments.
My mother had got mental disease because of those nasty people.
My father's mother died at 89 last November.
(Update of today)
My father had been to where he had got born since two days ago to bury his mother.
My mother had found out that those woman and daughter had attended to the event through that woman's Threads account this morning.
My mother ordered me to phone my father; he pretended as if they had not been here, but when I said her post he clarified that they had attended last November's funeral too.
My mother ordered me to phone my father's previous wife's daughter; she said they were there because they wanted to inherit my father's mother's house.
Asked her to never meet us; she said she won't because she hated us.
My mother had got upset.
Recorded their words.
RE: Family relationship update - ~JBG~ - 10th May 2025
I'm sorry to hear, sounds like a rough situation
RE: Family relationship update - .....|::|::::|... - 11th May 2025
(10th May 2025, 4:39 PM)~JBG~ Wrote: I'm sorry to hear, sounds like a rough situation
Thanks for saying so but I don't like your reply; what everyone on the internet can do is just say you're sorry to hear my OP; no one can actually visit my house or them irl to improve the issues. Additionally since I had got banned Discord servers for 37 times I have no really ideas who to ask for help. I am also considering to run a website to describe what my father, his mother and brother, and his previous wife and their daughter had done to ruin my mother's life by publishing their actual names and photos and something else; but why had my mother and I had to experience that? Why are they valuables that stories of people who had suffered from the WWII or earthquake and some disasters are; while are not my mother's experiences? As my father's mother had died last year there's no way to revenge them. My mother still have to suffer from things that has been happening since 1999 or 2000 and I really hate this fact. Many Japanese internet people don't want to listen to my mother's experiences therefore I am throwing some curse words to them.
RE: Family relationship update - ~JBG~ - 11th May 2025
(11th May 2025, 2:22 AM).....|::|::::|... Wrote: Thanks for saying so but I don't like your reply; what everyone on the internet can do is just say you're sorry to hear my OP; no one can actually visit my house or them irl to improve the issues. Additionally since I had got banned Discord servers for 37 times I have no really ideas who to ask for help. I am also considering to run a website to describe what my father, his mother and brother, and his previous wife and their daughter had done to ruin my mother's life by publishing their actual names and photos and something else; but why had my mother and I had to experience that? Why are they valuables that stories of people who had suffered from the WWII or earthquake and some disasters are; while are not my mother's experiences? As my father's mother had died last year there's no way to revenge them. My mother still have to suffer from things that has been happening since 1999 or 2000 and I really hate this fact. Many Japanese internet people don't want to listen to my mother's experiences therefore I am throwing some curse words to them.
Yeah I can see how it's frustrating to get the same response from people online repeatedly.
I'm not sure how people online would be able to help out your current situation though.
Some of my friends have started their own personal blog websites where they talk about their life, family history and problems as an outlet to vent into the void with no real reason other than to get it out there. (most of them only sharing the sites to close friends)
Regarding posting peoples actual identities and photos online you might have to check your local laws about stuff like that since it can backfire greatly depending on whichever privacy laws are in effect.
Has your mother looked into getting help from mental healthcare professionals regarding her experiences and problems?
RE: Family relationship update - .....|::|::::|... - 11th May 2025
(11th May 2025, 9:34 AM)~JBG~ Wrote: Has your mother looked into getting help from mental healthcare professionals regarding her experiences and problems?
The caseworkers on the hospital and I are the only people she can get help.
My mother has been cursing my father's previous wife and her daughter so that she wants to murder them (actually not doing because it's a crime); my mother has been frustrated these days because of those two people had been rude to her.
My father's previous wife's daughter had a rude attitude to us as well as her mother had been; as well as how her accents were. Sounded annoying to my mother.
RE: Family relationship update - .....|::|::::|... - 11th May 2025
(11th May 2025, 9:34 AM)~JBG~ Wrote: (most of them only sharing the sites to close friends)
My mother and I have no friends irl therefore I am thinking of making as many people as possible (including whoever random people) know our situation; while my mother, who had suffered from her experiences the most, is against this opinion.
RE: Family relationship update - ~JBG~ - 12th May 2025
(11th May 2025, 7:54 PM).....|::|::::|... Wrote: The caseworkers on the hospital and I are the only people she can get help.
ok it's good that there are at least some people at the hospital that are trying to help out.
(11th May 2025, 8:54 PM).....|::|::::|... Wrote: My mother and I have no friends irl therefore I am thinking of making as many people as possible (including whoever random people) know our situation; while my mother, who had suffered from her experiences the most, is against this opinion.
I understand that you want everyone to know about the treatment your mother has faced but if she's against the idea of this being publicized to everyone it might be better to listen to her so you don't do something that'll upset her
RE: Family relationship update - .....|::|::::|... - 13th May 2025
I have a news as of May 13: I have found out that my father had been communicating with his wife and her daughter since his father had died last November; this is for him to discuss them the inheritance of his mother's assets; since not only I but also that woman's daughter is his child, she also has the rights to get inherit as well as I have.
Obtw my father's big brother has been in need of supports because he has been suffering a stroke since 2013 (or 2014? 2012?) and he cannot talk, nor can be walk (I think); my mother and I are not sorry to him because we know he had been rude to us for several years.
RE: Family relationship update - .....|::|::::|... - 13th May 2025
(12th May 2025, 8:10 AM)~JBG~ Wrote: I understand that you want everyone to know about the treatment your mother has faced but if she's against the idea of this being publicized to everyone it might be better to listen to her so you don't do something that'll upset her
Writing something more exact: I am not sure whether she wants to let everyone know her circumstances, but she and I have no friends to tell the actual story irl nor online; I don't think this is good to have no friends therefore I had been trying to make as many random people as possible know the issues; it had been a tough thing.
RE: Family relationship update - .....|::|::::|... - 13th May 2025
No matter how much we blame those two people and my father and his mother and brother, he does never admit their sins nor what they had done bad to us; in worst, when I say something bad to him, he blames my mother (not me); this is unacceptable. Furthermore my mother has been warning me that I (in addition to he and his family people) am worsening her condition; this is unacceptable. Although my parents had got broken up in 2019 we, three people, are on the same place because I hadn't got any other jobs.
RE: Family relationship update - .....|::|::::|... - 14th May 2025
(UPDATE)
My mother has decided to give up improving (or not worsening) her condition so she would drink alcohol to make herself never think of awful treatments by my father and his (former) family people and awful circumstances as of now.
She doesn't have a job therefore my father has threatened her by saying that she would have no income things for many times.
The hospital people have no ways to improve her life.
RE: Family relationship update - .....|::|::::|... - 14th May 2025
The hotline is useless; could not even phone at all.
RE: Family relationship update - ~JBG~ - 14th May 2025
(13th May 2025, 10:37 PM).....|::|::::|... Wrote: Furthermore my mother has been warning me that I (in addition to he and his family people) am worsening her condition; this is unacceptable.
Perhaps it's better for you to avoid instigating more drama if it's affecting your mother negatively.
(14th May 2025, 2:53 AM).....|::|::::|... Wrote: (UPDATE)
My mother has decided to give up improving (or not worsening) her condition so she would drink alcohol to make herself never think of awful treatments by my father and his (former) family people and awful circumstances as of now.
The hospital people have no ways to improve her life.
That's not too good, how come the hospital can't help out more?
RE: Family relationship update - .....|::|::::|... - 15th May 2025
(14th May 2025, 3:49 PM)~JBG~ Wrote: Perhaps it's better for you to avoid instigating more drama if it's affecting your mother negatively.
That's not too good, how come the hospital can't help out more?
1. I don't think I am doing something wrong to my mother; but I suffer from communicating my mother so this makes her suffer.
2. The hospital from here takes 2-3 hours by train; there's a mental hospital (not mental clinic) in this city (not outside of this city) but when my mother had been going see a doctor there she had got mistreated for lots of times and the hospital people there are not welcoming her; furthermore none of those doctors could cure her because all of they had assert my mother's story had been fake and never had tried to listen to her experiences. The hospital on different prefecture is the only one what my mother trusts to do something with her mental disease; but she has lost hopes because what they would do is mental condition improvements but no other things such as law advice nor anything else.
3. And WE ARE STILL IN AWFUL CIRCUMSTANCE; my mother guessed that my father had met his previous wife and her daughter three times since last November not because they had planned to do so but because they had happened to do so.
My mother has been worrying about my father's previous wife and her daughter would take over my father's assets (house and factory and money).
My mother and I have been working at my (divorced) father's factory; it's not a hard job but many of things that woman and that daughter had left had found there (such as photos and letters). My father had never cleaned his rooms or factories for several years (or a decade).